Understanding of identity status is very important in life. Living without clear understanding of who you really are means you do not live in full. Considering the theory of Marcia, I would say that my level of self-identification is somewhere between identity foreclosure and identity achievement (Oswalt, 2010; Santrock, 2012). In other words, I have a lot of commitment to my family and husband while I am not in pursue of my dream of becoming medical assistant pursuing clinical psychology. On the other hand, I know what I want and I want it badly. It is very important for me to become not just a wife and the mother of my kids, but a good specialist as well.
I understand that such desire is partially dictated by my parents’ influence. My Asian roots and upbringing in the family of Catholics, both strict parents (a nurse and a civil engineering father), the service of my husband for 14 years already and three children – all these factors have influenced my self-identification process for years. Parents wanted me to become a medical doctor; it was my dream as well (and still is). However, I could not make my career the top priority in life. My choice is similar to the one of the example provided by Oswalt (2010), relating it to Marcia’s theory – the girl chose being as her mother and grandmother because it was a tradition. I understand that it could have been changed and I would be a doctor by now.
Additionally, I understand that it is very hard to fulfill my dream. On the other hand, having a clear understating of where I am now and to what stage I need to develop my desire to become a medical assistant pursuing clinical psychology, I know what to do. Marcia’s theory helped me to understand what was done wrong in the past and how I can change it, how my life can be changed with my and only my efforts.